Thursday, November 20, 2014

Not friends any more

Tyler, who had for the past few days had been telling me his favorite was T, that they both liked dinosurs, told me this week that they are no longer friends...

He says T told him "friends don't last forever," and that T's mom told him it's good to make new friends all the time, so you can be happier. It seems Tyler and his (former?) friend thought it was indeed a good idea to take a break and branch out. T is playing with another boy, C these days, and Tyler is back to being friends with an SK girl, P.

I said this thing about "friends don't last forever" was sad, but Tyler said earnestly that it didn't make him sad.

It seems I am projecting on him, and wishing for deeper attachments to these schoolyard and classroom interactions.

It is likely very healthy for all the kids to have flexible attachments and mix up in various groups. It's good to learn to get along with everyone.

Today he says he made a new friend, C, and made friends with a girl whose name he didn't know. They are from the other class, but they share the same play area.

So, again, the lesson is to not worry too much. He has lots of friends, in different contexts. He is friendly with other kids he meets for the first time or sees in passing. He is a happy-go-lucky kid and is likeable.

I just need to get over the "friends don't last forever" line. I couldn't help it. I told him family lasts forever...

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